All .. it depends on the days, my partners, the moods of each and the space we have!
Turns On
The looks, the complicity, to feel the desire of my (my) partner(s) to guess it then to see it .. him (them) mean mine .. the tender words like the vintages .. spoil me, treat me like a princess , but take me apart like the devil would ... then I'll
Turns Off
Rude people, bad timing, emotional blackmail, attempts at manipulation of all kinds, and finally, in a more general way, lack of respect.